Some people who do not get what they want can believe that they are not « manipulators » just because they did not get what they want. Because if you do not get what you want is easier to hidde what you in fact was looking for and reinterpretate the past of your acions. 

The people who get something exactly as they want are those who will always suffer from this suspectious ambiguity: “how did they come there just with a good moral?!”